I know my boyfriend is my soul mate; I can just feel it. However, every time we start to grow closer, I feel like we are pulled apart. I don’t know what is going on. I’ve been told that someone he had a relationship with in the past is very jealous and has tried to use witchcraft to separate us. I tried to tell him about this but I don’t think he believes me. I know something is wrong. How do I fix it? I don’t want to lose him after waiting my whole life to find him. He has a hard time letting me go also; when we break up, we always get back together because we don’t really want to be apart. Can you help?
Starjean
Susyn:
While witchcraft and black magic can be used to keep people apart, I do not feel that is the problem here. Even if that were happening, your love for each other should be strong enough to deflect any negative energy that comes your way. The only way someone could use witchcraft to break you apart is if you fear and believe that to be happening, for fear gives your power away.
There must be a deeper reason why the two of you keep running into blocks just when you start to get really close to each other. On both of your parts, there are issues from the past that are causing you to back up at certain points. That’s the reason you can sense that something is wrong but canít quite figure out what it is.
Your boyfriend may still wrestle with issues from the relationship you mentioned. Perhaps his exís jealousy caused him to pull away. If so, you will want to make sure that you do not engage in the same behaviors that caused them to breakup.
You may also have old issues that get triggered in certain situations that cause you to doubt the relationship or fear that it is being interfered with. There are a number of things you can do to strengthen your relationship and build more trust between the two of you.
First you must keep in mind that trust is the most important aspect of your relationship. It can be hard to trust another person when they pull back or are influenced by an ex. Trust in yourself and your feelings, and always give your boyfriend the benefit of a doubt. This will strengthen your connection.
Second, keep a daily journal about your relationship. Recording each day’s events will help you identify patterns and determine what is preventing you from growing closer. It will also help you maintain healthy boundaries and act authentically instead of succumbing to doubt.
Third, the relationship may be out of balance. Be sure that the give and take between you is equal. For example, if you are doing all the calling, texting and planning for the two of you, step back and wait for him to take the lead. If you over-nurture him or seek him out when he needs time alone or you feel he is drifting away from you, it will only make him move further away. If you focus on your own needs and desires to create better balance, it wonít be long before he turns his focus back on you and your relationship.
These actions should help clear some of the blocks youíve been experiencing and move this relationship forward in healthy, authentic ways.
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Mata:
The art of seduction is in many ways the art of casting a spell over someone. For example, you wouldn’t show up for a date in what you wore to exercise that morning, free of makeup and with your hair all disheveled. We all try to project a certain energy and image when we are trying to win people over.
While such attempts may yield a temporary lover, for a relationship to be really satisfying and stand the test of time, it must be true, by which I mean it must be founded on a connection between who you really are and who the other person really is. If we try to go against nature by pretending to be someone we’re really not in relationships, by trying to force connections that just don’t want to happen naturally, or by trying to break up people who really belong
together, our efforts may seem to work for a while, but eventually, the truth will prevail.
Which brings me to my point: if you are meant to be together, you will be together regardless of what some ex-girlfriend may desire or attempt to do. If your love is strong and deep, it will withstand whatever storms come your way.
What you can do is work with the Universe by redirecting any negative energies you receive toward the creation of what you desire. This is an opportunity to talk to your boyfriend about this pattern you’ve observed, get clear about how you both really feel, and, if you determine that you both really do want the same things in love, begin to work together to forge such a deep and lasting love that nothing could keep you apart.
If you keep going through the same pattern of experience in this relationship, it’s a sign that there is some issue or obstacle that needs to be worked through and overcome. Instead of blaming your problems on outside forces, you two would be wise to look deeply at any healing or growth you need to undertake in order to fulfill your dreams for a loving, lasting bond.
If you’re worried about someone else using black magick against you, then you obviously believe this is possible. This is wonderful, for your belief in magick will empower you to use white magick to counter any such measures and make your relationship deep, strong and satisfying. I recommend you use creative visualization and spiritual rituals that resonate with you to bless your bond and make it as wonderful as it can possibly be.
Since what we sends out comes back to us, we are wise to ignore all we don’t want and focus on what we do. Work on yourself, work together on this relationship, and use your divine creative power to fulfill your dreams for love.
Astrea:
Many times in life we hear, “You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT.” Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown’s book was all it took to get you there.
Even though you hadn’t read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!
While I don’t usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity – you gotta love it!
I like your description of “getting caught.” That’s exactly what it feels like, isn’t it? One minute you’re free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!
As a little kid, I loved that “feeling of return.” With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.
I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family’s interest in “psychic stuff” will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.
You’ll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she’ll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn’t nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it’s STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!
Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.
A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don’t get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you’re doing here on Earth.
You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.