I had a disturbing dream that I hope you can help me interpret. I dreamed that my husband went missing for a few days, and then he was found dead. He had committed suicide by jumping off a cliff. I didn’t find him but I was called to identify him. He was lying face down in a pool of water and long grass. He still had his work uniform on, and this detail really stood out from the others. My father-in-law was in the dream too; he was the one who phoned to let me know that my husband had been found dead. I remember this dream as clear as day. I woke up in the middle of the night in lots of tears. My husband and I did have a big argument before we went to bed that night; I’m not sure if that had something to do with the dream. Thanks!
Rachael
Astrea:
Death in a dream rarely means death. In most dreams, death signifies change or a need for change. Dreams prepare us for our destinies. Often the object of a dream (in this case your husband) can represent a different person or the need to take a new and different attitude about something. Like the Death Card in Tarot, it represents spiritual awakening or a change of mind or circumstances.
It certainly isn’t unusual to dream of the demise of someone after we’ve had an argument with them. Our subconscious minds can find all sorts of ways to bump someone off who annoyed us right before we fell asleep.
Dreaming of your husband committing suicide is unsettling, but since you had an argument that night, it’s not surprising. In your dream, you wanted extreme change to happen, but you didn’t want to be responsible for causing that change, so he killed himself instead of you taking bold action.
From your description of your dream and your reaction to it, my guess is that you argued about money and/or other material things. When we dream of a death after an argument with someone, it often indicates that person is being inflexible abut financial matters.
In your dream, your husband leaves you in the most terrible, irreversible way possible. This is even worse than being abandoned, for you are left behind to deal with and take over every aspect of your shared lives forever. You felt abandoned after your disagreement, and your subconscious mind came up with this dramatic symbol for how you were feeling.
When we’re upset, it’s common to dream of abandonment in various ways. In lighter dreams, we may get lost from one another, while in heavier dreams, death is a powerful symbol for our intense emotions.
In your case, I think your Guides and Angels were giving you one of those It’s a Wonderful Life
experiences via your dream. You were seeing what your life might be like without your husband in it. This was to make you appreciate what you have with him more, not to frighten you. This dream was designed to make you more tolerant of him in the future.
I don’t think your husband is planning on checking out on you that way or dying anytime soon, so I doubt you have to worry about that. You seem to have a strong, well-developed personality, so I have to assume he does too and that your argument was just a bump in the road of marriage.
He needs to listen to your opinion more and keep a more open mind. You need to be more patient when you explain your views to him. Those are the changes your dream was trying to indicate to you.
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Susyn:
Our dreams are where we work out our greatest fears. They also lead us beyond our anger or upset to the truth of how we really feel. In this case, it seems your subconscious was responding to how angry you were about the argument by illuminating how important your husband is to you. The fact that he was found dead, presumably by his own hand, suggests that he too may have been upset by the argument.
I do not believe this dream was a premonition or a harbinger of things that will actually come to pass. Instead, I feel the events in the dream are symbolic of other issues.
You do not go into detail about the nature of the argument you two had, but if it was work or money-related, that could explain why your husband was found in his work uniform and why this stood out to you in the dream. You might have felt he was not living up to his potential at work or that he was taking actions that might actually cost him his job, hence the appearance that his death was caused by his own choices.
This dream might also be a sign that your husband needs to change jobs. The demands of his current job may be too much, and could be contributing to the arguments the two of you are having.
Your father-in-law’s presence in the dream speaks to family ties. It could be that you are noticing a lot of similarities between father and son.
Upon closer investigation, some of the images in your dream might reveal certain aspects of your husband or your life together that only you would be able to connect. You may want to write this dream (and others of this nature) down in more detail. Then you can look at each aspect of the dream as a separate factor and try to connect it to circumstances in your life. When you make those associations, you may then be better able to interpret the dream as a whole.
Keep in mind that our dreams fulfill a wonderful purpose in that they can alert us to deeper feelings, troubles or concerns we have been unable to address consciously. Because the two of you argued before you had the dream, this could be the reason it seemed so intense, and why it continues to linger in your mind.
I’m sure that once you awoke, you discovered your feelings of anger had dissipated and the two of you made up, which could have been the greater purpose of this dream. Also, if you feel that certain aspects of his work ethics or job need to be addressed, you’ll be able to see what they are more clearly now, and help him make some important changes.
Astrea:
Many times in life we hear, “You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT.” Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown’s book was all it took to get you there.
Even though you hadn’t read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!
While I don’t usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity – you gotta love it!
I like your description of “getting caught.” That’s exactly what it feels like, isn’t it? One minute you’re free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!
As a little kid, I loved that “feeling of return.” With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.
I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family’s interest in “psychic stuff” will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.
You’ll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she’ll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn’t nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it’s STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!
Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.
A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don’t get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you’re doing here on Earth.
You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.