I had a dream that my ex-boyfriend got into a freakish accident with a parachute and died. Then I was having dinner with his family and my best friend, and I started breaking down at the table and his father comforted me. After dinner we went to this room that looked like a court room and saw photos of his autopsy. In the dream even though it was clear he was dead, I kept thinking he was going to be saved and come back to life. The image of the autopsy is still in my mind. I woke up hysterically crying. In reality, my ex and I haven’t spoken since the break-up and we didn’t end things on good terms. This is the second dream I’ve had of him dying. The one I just described was worse than the first one and more emotional. What does this mean?
Susyn:
Since our dreams often contain buried fears and unresolved issues, it’s understandable that you are having dreams about your ex-boyfriend. You mention that you did not end things on good terms, though you do not say whether the decision to break up was mutual. Your dreams are telling you that, in order to move forward, you have some emotional work to do.
When we dream of someone who is in a plane, parachute or even on a high ledge, the message is that we may have left them hanging in limbo. Because of the nature of your breakup, this could be the reason you dreamed of him dying due to an unopened parachute. Your belief that he was going to come back to life also suggests that you have some unresolved issues regarding the relationship.
If you want to stop having such intensely emotional dreams, I recommend you start to process your feelings when you’re awake through writing or sharing them with a trusted friend or advisor. First write down your general thoughts about the relationship and then some of the details that caused the breakup. Putting your feelings down on paper will bring them up from your subconscious and help alleviate the hold they clearly still have on you. Once youíve done this, sharing them with another person will help you put things into perspective so you can lay the relationship to rest.
Your dream is encouraging you to do this, for the autopsy suggests that you are searching for your part in the demise of the relationship. If you journal about this, you can learn what you need to learn so that you don’t repeat the same mistakes in future relationships.
Of course, you will see troublsome actions and traits in your ex-boyfriend as well. Noting these can help you refrain from getting involved with someone similar in the future. For example, if your ex-boyfriend cheated on you or had an addictive personality, you will know to avoid men with the same tendencies next time.
Once you can look at the details of the relationship from a more objective and less emotional stance, these dreams should start to subside. Your ex-boyfriend is not in any danger of losing his life, for these dreams aren’t prophetic; they are messages that before you move on to a new relationship, you need to process and complete the one that just ended on an emotional and spiritual level.
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Mata Maya:
Our dreams offer us ways to work through feelings and issues that we’re not dealing with on a conscious level. You are having these intense dreams because the relationship ended badly and you haven’t spoken to your ex to resolve things since your break-up.
To me, the dream is clearly not about the death of your boyfriend but about the death of the relationship. The parachute represents something that failed that you did not expect to fail, and how the results of that failure were disastrous. Your grief about him dying is symbolic of your sorrow over the end of the relationship.
The court room is about trying to figure out who is to blame and what went wrong. The same is true of the autopsy, which is of course a way to determine the cause of this death. This dream is a way for your subconscious to help you work out what went wrong and process your feelings of loss.
If your boyfriend had been killed by someone else – if you had stabbed him to death or he had been killed by a stranger – we might assume that this was a wish fulfillment sort of dream, a way for you to safely express some of your anger toward him. Since he died in a freak accident and you are sad in the dream, it’s clear that you more heartbroken than angry and are still trying to figure out what went wrong.
That you keep thinking he is going to be saved and come back to life suggests that you still carry hope of reconciling with him. Of course, it could also be a clue from your subconscious that this dream is not about him literally being dead but is instead symbolic of something else – the death of your romantic relationship with him.
When relationships end in the physical, they don’t end in the astral. This is why we keep dreaming about people we no longer see anymore. If you consciously work with your dreams, you can actually work things out with your ex in dream experiences with him even if you’re unable to see or talk with him on a physical level.
To do this, meditate on your relationship before you go to sleep at night, and ask to meet with him in your dreams with the intention of finding new peace and understanding. If you do this and you also work in a general way to have lots of dreams that you remember clearly, you should begin to dream of him often, and to have ever more positive dream experiences.
Astrea:
Many times in life we hear, “You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT.” Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown’s book was all it took to get you there.
Even though you hadn’t read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!
While I don’t usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity – you gotta love it!
I like your description of “getting caught.” That’s exactly what it feels like, isn’t it? One minute you’re free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!
As a little kid, I loved that “feeling of return.” With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.
I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family’s interest in “psychic stuff” will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.
You’ll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she’ll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn’t nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it’s STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!
Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.
A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don’t get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you’re doing here on Earth.
You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.