I’m a 28-year-old male. The following strange events just started up again after stopping for a while. Every night when I lie down after turning out the light, I feel an entity on my bed. I can feel the mattress pressing down like someone is going to lie next to me. This starts at the foot of the bed and works upwards. (I’m awake when this is happening.) When this happens, I get bad dreams. Once in my sleep, I felt like someone was holding me down firmly. I couldn’t get up. I also see shadows in the dark. One day I woke in a deranged mood for no reason, and when I got up to go outside, I felt it leave my body. My mother is a medium and she tells me to put keys under my pillow or salt and water in a cup under the bed. I really want to know what this is, and if I need an exorcism or something. When I was a child, I used to see my departed grandfather and hear voices. When my girlfriend is here or a friend is here, it doesn’t bother me at all; this only happens when I’m alone. My bed is secondhand; do you think I need a new one? What should I do?
Kanoa
Astrea:
It would be unusual for you to feel you are being hounded by invisible spirits except for the fact that your mother is a medium! Naturally, you’ve inherited her sensitivity to subtle forces.
This entity you’re sensing needs your help. She has some negativity around her that she doesn’t want, and she’s turning to you for help with dispelling it. She has chosen you to be the person who helps her leave the earth plane so she can find her own paradise.
Of course your mother is right. The two things she told you to do are great for fighting night terrors and bad dreams. Your nightmares are unrelated to your experience of having someone near or inside your person. Those phenomena will have to be dealt with separately from the creature that is haunting you.
Getting a new bed isn’t a bad idea. It’s probably not the reason this is happening, but wooden furniture can harbor spirit energy. Try that first, but be prepared for this to continue no matter where you are sleeping.
Moving to a different room might provide a temporary fix, but nothing is going to happen for good until you confront this creature and find out how to help her.
You and your Spirit Girl need to talk about what’s going on. As crazy as that may sound, as long as you take the usual safety precautions (which your mother can advise you on), you won’t experience any ill effects. Tell her that you will miss her when she’s gone (and believe it or not, you will), but that she MUST move on. Your bed isn’t big enough for the both of you, and she is beginning to cause you distress.
She’ll understand. Tell her that you’ll do whatever it takes to help her, and be sincere in your offer. This may have to happen more than once for her to get the message, but she WILL get it. She’s stuck with you until you release her, so get on with this so you can sleep better and enjoy sweet dreams.
If there is some reason you’ve chosen to deny your ability as a medium, now is the time to examine that. No matter how hard you try to ignore it, eventually you’re going to have to accept that the dead are going to want to communicate through you. If you don’t want to be a medium, too bad: you’ll have to face the fact that you’re gifted like your mom is, and most likely lots of other people in your family are too.
Often psychic ability gets stronger with each generation no matter how you kids try to deny it’s there. If you embrace your ability, it will cease to bother you, for you will then begin to learn how to control it.
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Susyn:
It sounds like you have an unwanted entity near you that you need to rid yourself of. Your mother’s suggestions on how to counteract this experience are designed more for protection or deflection, and won’t work on the type of spirit that is bothering you.
This entity could have come in with your secondhand bed, but even if you dispose of the mattress and purchase a new bed, you may still have a problem. It’s much as it would be if you purchased an item that contained insects hidden within it: once they have come into your space, you must do more than get rid of their vehicle to be rid of them. You are going to need a spirit exterminator to take care of this situation.
Based on your description of waking in a deranged mood only to have it disappear when you leave the house, it’s apparent that this entity has chosen to remain in your home and has attached itself to you. This could also be the reason you don’t sense it when other people are around.
It sounds like this is a discarnate spirit, which is a spirit that is trapped between the earth and spirit world. It could have been in the house you live in before you moved in, or come in later. Either way, you will want to begin with a major cleansing of your room. If there have been incidents in other areas of the house, you’ll need to cleanse them as well.
Begin by purchasing a sage smudge stick, a box of sea salt and some medium size natural quartz crystals. I recommend you purchase three crystals for your room, and if you need to cleanse the entire house, a crystal for each of the remaining rooms in your home.
Beginning in your room, light the smudge stick and allow the wafting smoke to cleanse the air. As you wave the stick around each area, command in a loud voice that every negative, uninvited and troublesome spirit leave the premises immediately. Be sure to wave the smoke around windows, door frames and all electronic equipment and outlets. I would also smudge around and under your bed thoroughly since this has proven to be a problem area.
Once you’ve completed the smudging ceremony, fill a small plate or bowl with some sea salt. Then place one of the quartz crystals in the salt in an upright position. Set three of these metaphysical air fresheners
in your room, and one in each of the other rooms you feel might need extra protection.
If you still experience problems after this, I recommend consulting an exorcist, psychic or Spiritualist professional to clear this entity from your home.
Astrea:
Many times in life we hear, “You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT.” Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown’s book was all it took to get you there.
Even though you hadn’t read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!
While I don’t usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity – you gotta love it!
I like your description of “getting caught.” That’s exactly what it feels like, isn’t it? One minute you’re free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!
As a little kid, I loved that “feeling of return.” With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.
I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family’s interest in “psychic stuff” will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.
You’ll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she’ll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn’t nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it’s STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!
Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.
A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don’t get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you’re doing here on Earth.
You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.