I have had several dreams in the past year about roads ending abruptly. Here’s one of the most significant: I was in the state I was born in but do not live in now. I found a 2-year-old at a family reunion. No one knew who he belonged to, so I took him and got into a car to go to my grandma’s house. (She has been dead for about five years now.) My GPS wouldn’t work and I got lost. I called my mom and lost reception. The road I was on began to break up and it ended inside a cave where other cars were parked. I asked a couple to help me and they told me I was far away from my destination. I’ve never been to the cave but my mom says I described exactly what it looks like in real life. I’ve had several dreams that end the same way. I am driving and the road ends at the ocean. The most recent dream was about the road to my house. I was driving home and the road stopped before my house and I could see the layers of road, dirt and rock. My boyfriend and I have been together almost three years and he says he is too young to get married and doesn’t know if he ever wants kids. I think I would like to have his child someday. Are these dreams about ending roads pointing to our relationship going nowhere, or do you think they mean something else?
Astrea:
It’s certainly possible that this dream means you’re heading down a dead end road with your boyfriend. However, most of the time when you figure out what a recurring dream means, you stop having it.
Since you keep having this one, I think it indicates that you want change more than anything else. You’re trying to hang in there in this relationship until things change and become the way you want them to be. In this case, the dead end signifies that you feel like things are out of your control.
I’m inclined to go along with the trapped theory here. It could be that you feel that even though he doesn’t want to get married and create a child with you right now, you’re trapped in this relationship with him and unable to find the courage to wait him out or the faith and freedom to move on to someone else.
You dream that the road you’re traveling leads to a cave. In dreams, caves are traps because most of the time, there are no exits on the other side. I think it makes sense that your dreams signify that you feel stuck, like there is no good way out of your situation. However, there are other elements that lead me to believe you plan on sticking things out with him.
You see layers in the roads, and they become rougher the farther you go. These are the layers of your relationship and the dissatisfaction you feel because he’s not on your schedule. Since you’re not a pushy person and you don’t want to be manipulative, the dreams you’re having give you insights and an outlet for your frustration. Your subconscious takes over as you sleep and shows you the right road – it just needs attention and repair to become what you need it to be.
There are lots of ways to stop recurring dreams, but believe it or not, the one you’re having is giving you power. Since you already have deep understanding of what is going on here, it’s time to make those road repairs.
This doesn’t mean you need to make an abrupt change in your life, for repairs take time. You seem to be willing to give your relationship the time it needs to grow into all you desire it to be. In relationships with air signs (Gemini, Aquarius, Libra), patience and tolerance are the keys to success. Taurus girls like you have great staying power, so you can make it together if he is the one you really want.
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Susyn:
You may be on the right track when you attach meaning to these dreams as reflections of your relationship. Dreaming of dead ends or roads that end in the wrong place is often a message that you may be moving down the wrong path to get to your goals.
Your dreams also appear to relate to important aspects of your relationship. For example, in the first dream you describe, you find a two-year-old at a family reunion who doesn’t seem to belong to anyone there.
This could represent the child or children you hope to have one day. Also significant is the fact that he was part of a family gathering, and you were taking him to meet your grandmother who now resides in the spirit world, where your future children would also currently dwell.
In this dream you got lost, your GPS wouldn’t work, and you got disconnected during a call to your mom. These incidents all reflect the idea that your goals are being short-circuited in one way or another. It’s possible that these dreams are telling you that you can’t get to where you want to go because someone or something keeps failing you.
In dream symbology, a cave may represent the womb. The couple who told you that you were far from your destination may be yet another omen that in order to reach your destination, you may have to change your path.
When you dream of a road that ends at the ocean, which can also represent a womb, it suggests you that you have reached the end of your current journey. The ocean also represents a vast expanse of choices for your future.
Finally, driving up to your house to discover the entrance blocked by layers of road, dirt and rock speak to the limits you are feeling in your relationship as well as the roadblocks that your partner keeps putting up.
These dreams all seem to indicate that if you continue on your current road with your boyfriend, who after three years claims to be too young to marry and unsure if he wants children, you may not be able to realize your dreams. Just as he is making his own choices, you also have the right to choose what you want for your life whether he is willing to come along or not.
Decide how important those things are to you and make your decision from there. My guess is that once you do, these dreams of traveling down dead end roads will cease.
Astrea:
Many times in life we hear, “You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT.” Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown’s book was all it took to get you there.
Even though you hadn’t read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!
While I don’t usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity – you gotta love it!
I like your description of “getting caught.” That’s exactly what it feels like, isn’t it? One minute you’re free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!
As a little kid, I loved that “feeling of return.” With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.
I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family’s interest in “psychic stuff” will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.
You’ll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she’ll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn’t nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it’s STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!
Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.
A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don’t get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you’re doing here on Earth.
You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.