Is it possible that we feel pulled toward some people because they have a higher spiritual vibration, but we mistake those feelings for falling in love with that person? I’m in a predicament, for I feel like I’ve fallen deeply in love with a man who is highly religious and spiritual. He’s an extremely sucessful businessman, and he’s a very loving husband and father. He also does a lot for the poor and needy. He really seems to be the perfect man. It’s hard not to love him or think I love him. Could you please shed some light on this?
K.
Susyn:
This situation happens more frequently than you might imagine. Often when we come into contact with someone with a strong spiritual vibration, it’s almost impossible not to form feelings for them.
The man you describe seems to have all the qualities of a wonderful soul mate. He has had such a profound effect on you mainly because he is so different from most of the men you come across. He has touched your spirit in a way that has opened your heart wider than ever before.
Karmically, if this man were meant to be your partner in this lifetime, you would not be blocked due to pre-existing commitments. While some relationships do begin with these types of challenges, it does not appear from your letter that he returns your feelings. In fact, because of his strong character and charisma, he probably has many female admirers.
It is possible that you knew this man in a past life, which could explain your strong attraction to him. In this lifetime, you may not be destined to be together, but the memories of that past life are imprinted on your soul and could be contributing to the sense that you are falling in love with him.
The most important thing you can do in this situation is hold your power and energy and allow the connection with him to unfold as directed by Spirit. Trying to force something to happen will short-circuit whatever is meant to be. He may have come into your life for the purpose of being a spiritual teacher or example for you. Attempting to turn this into something else could mean the loss of your connection and his friendship.
Keeping boundaries around your feelings may prove difficult. Be careful not to neglect yourself, your own responsibilities, or your spiritual growth out of a desire to spend time with him or endlessly fantasize about him. I recommend you find something you can focus on in your own life that you feel just as passionate about.
When your true love appears, he will most likely share many of the qualities you admire in this man. The difference is that he will be available and interested in forming a loving partnership with you.
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Mata:
This sort of thing happens to spiritual seekers all the time because we don’t have the same spiritual outlets we did in times past. In many ways, the quest for a soul mate has taken the place of the quest for God or enlightenment.
We all have a deep and innate hunger for the Divine. No matter how much material success we acquire or even how much love we cultivate in our lives, it is human nature to long for that unnameable something we occasionally catch glimpses of in what we call spiritual experiences.
It is also very common to project all sorts of qualities onto people who make us feel as we long to feel. This is the basic dynamic behind transference in the therapist/client relationship. By interacting with people who represent deeper issues for us, we are able to bring what is happening on a subconscious level up where we can work with it.
When we feel drawn toward someone as you describe, it’s often because they embody qualities we want to develop more in ourselves. Feelings of admiration are signs from our higher selves, telling us where to go next. In the situation you describe, the person you believe you’re in love with is just a stand-in for the sort of person you hope to become in the future.
When I am working as a spiritual healer or teacher, I often see that look of love and admiration on the faces of seekers who are coming up behind me on the path. Both men and women have confessed that they felt like they were falling in love with me. Usually, this was not in a sexual way but in the sense that they felt as strongly drawn toward me as one does to a new lover. When this happens, I always point out that it is not me they are in love with; it is the light of the divine shining through me that makes them turn toward me like a flower turns toward the sun.
So though this man sounds like a wonderful person, it is what he represents for you and how he makes you feel that has captured your heart and soul. I don’t feel that you are being called to be in a romantic relationship with him; instead, you are being called to be more LIKE him. Your higher self is using your feelings for him as a road marker that says, Become more like this to find the peace and divine bliss you crave.
Astrea:
Many times in life we hear, “You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT.” Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown’s book was all it took to get you there.
Even though you hadn’t read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!
While I don’t usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity – you gotta love it!
I like your description of “getting caught.” That’s exactly what it feels like, isn’t it? One minute you’re free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!
As a little kid, I loved that “feeling of return.” With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.
I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family’s interest in “psychic stuff” will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.
You’ll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she’ll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn’t nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it’s STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!
Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.
A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don’t get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you’re doing here on Earth.
You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.